Patriarchal Blessings

As a volunteer youth worker, I can't think of anything I do which is more fulfilling than praying over our teens. It doesn't happen often, and when I pray for one of my guys it has always been initiated by them at the suggestion of a third party; nothing is forced. What I find so interesting about these times of prayer is the emotional rush that seems to accompany the event -- both for me, and for the person receiving prayer.

In retrospect, these prayers are the closest thing to prophecy that I find in Evangelical churches. They are, in many ways, closer to prophecy than anything I have ever spoken in charismatic circles, even without the "thus says the Lord" part. I call these prayers prophetic because they are -- not the "telling the future" kind of prophecy you get in fiction, but "speaking the words of God" prophecy after the Biblical model.

Before you write me off as an arrogant fool, let me explain: I am not praying that way to show off. When I pray for one of our teens, I honestly don't trust my own intentions, and I am seeking desperately to find the will of God in his life. The result is a prayer that asks God for what God already wills; I call that prophetic.

This is the part that I find so emotionally intense. I have prophesied in large groups and in small in various church settings on multiple continents, and I know how to seek spiritual direction from God. Nonetheless, I am still overwhelmed to witness the passion of God for his people. He reaches beyond my knowledge to the secret hurt, and speaks healing there. And why he would involve me in that process is beyond my comprehension.

While thinking about this earlier today, I noticed the similarity between my prayers and the patriarchal blessings in Genesis. In each, an older man (the father) speaks encouragement into his son's soul by pointing to his gifts and callings, and declares out loud how God will provide for those callings to be fulfilled.

This kind of prayer is in many ways The Answer that John Eldridge describes in Wild at Heart -- the answer to the question:

Do I have what it takes to be a man?

Young men can only get this answer if it is given by another, older man.

The story of Esau contains a dramatic example of this answer undelivered. When Jacob deceives his father, Isaac, Isaac mistakenly gives him the blessing intended for Esau. Isaac favored Esau over his brother, and the blessing shows it: the position of family leader and delivery of lifelong blessing from God. When Esau later arrives for the blessing he was promised, there is no way that Isaac can truly bless him without contradicting what he has already spoken.

This is the agony of a man whose father cannot, or will not, answer his question. "Bless me - me too, O my Father!" Esau cries, weeping. He knows his need, and knows that it will not be met. As a result, Esau learns to hate his brother, to the point where Jacob has to run away to save his own life.

Have you lived through that pain? You can make a choice to keep from passing it on. When it came time for Jacob to give his own blessing, he had a blessing for all twelve of his sons, even though everyone knew that Joseph was his favorite. Each one had his question answered.

Are you in a position to give that blessing? I don't have any sons (though I do have two daughters), yet I find that just by being around young men I end up in the position where they come to me for the blessing. Some of them have excellent Christian fathers. Others have fathers who don't know Christ, and some don't have a father involved in their lives at all. Regardless, their need as young men remains. If you are a Christian man in authority over younger men, you have what it takes to speak the Answer into their lives. And the older you are, the more powerful that answer can be.

Having said all this, I still consider this post to be nontrivial because I can't see the rest of the picture. Consider:

1. If the question for young men is "Do I have what it takes?" is there an equivalent question for young women?


2. Is that question for young women something that only a mother figure can answer?


3. What about prayer across gender lines? Is there an answer I give to my daughters through prayer, or one that boys get from their mothers?


4. Finally, how do we distinguish between a patriarchal blessing and inappropriate meddling?

Of this much, however, I am certain: our families, even in the church, are in such disarray that many young men have no one to give them a blessing. The need is great, perhaps greater than it has ever been before.

Hypotheses Non Fingo

It is not uncommon for those in the scientific community to criticize those of faith for the lengths we have been willing to go to in opposition of their most closely held beliefs (see, for example, the debate over Intelligent Design. For myself, I am inclined to take a view akin to the one Jesus took on taxes; to give scientific matters over to the scientific method, and to give religious matters over to faith. In saying this, I do not mean to yield the questions of human origins to the evolutionary biologists; instead, I mean to point out the absurdity of any attempt to argue the question of origins as if it were a scientific matter.

In writing his Principia Mathematica Sir Isaac Newton was careful to lay out his laws of motion while expressing Hypotheses Non Fingo ("I make no guesses" regarding the reason for those laws to be true. Noting that the culture in which Newton lived was not inclined to think scientifically, I feel that it was precisely this decision which allowed him to be successful in communicating his Principia to the world.

Modern society, on the other hand, appears to be as dependent on scientific reductionism as Newton's world was dependent on religion. Those who follow the scientific method want evidence and testability, and only those who are willing to submit to that kind of rigor will be welcomed in that discussion.

The problem with that situation is that we don't serve a God who will submit to testing. Other than tithing, I am not aware of any approved topic for testing God. Likewise, if He is really invisible or infinite (or both), measurement would not be possible either. You should also expect that miracles -- including the resurrection of Christ -- are by definition not reproducible.

Taking this one step further, those of us in the community of faith should not expect those in the community of science to be able to span the gap between science (describing what can happen) and history (describing what did happen). Thus, if you want to talk about Christ, you should expect to take some heat from those who don't follow your system of logic. This doesn't mean that your cause is hopeless; you simply have to wait for the "aha moment" when people are willing to speak about the bigger picture.

As a man who lives with one foot in each community, I run into this dichotomy on an almost daily basis. Does this make me bilingual?